Wise words for the new mother I was from the mother I am now

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When WaterWipes approached me to get involved with their latest campaign I was, firstly, more than delighted because I use the wipes anyway on the small ladies behind and, secondly, because the campaign really struck a chord wth me. They want to take a different approach, so much of what we see online features picture perfect mothers with glossy hair and a serene expression on their faces holding an equally serene newborn in their arms as they gaze into each other’s eyes…no dirty muslin cloths hanging around in the background, no reminints of sick on the mothers top and a tidy room. It’s this sort of imagery and messaging that is so incredibly misleading; motherhood is messy, it’s a constant juggle to keep all the balls in the air without loosing your mind but it’s also amazing and wonderful and, well just amazing. With the idea of breaking down the perfect image portrayed so often to us, WaterWipes aims to inspire us, motherhood isn’t easy but it sure is wonderful. I’ve put together a few thoughts on the topic, advice I think my own self, as a first time mother, could really have used those 6 years ago now…..2695f72b-0ce9-4029-9f00-6a137e78872eIt’s a funny thing reflecting back on a time when your baby was small, I personally think that Mother Nature has a great knack of making you forget the exhausting parts and only lets you remember the precious cuddles and the parenting wins. Those early memories are so quickly replaced by new stages, new milestones, new worries that perhaps the mind only has the capacity to remember the sweeter spots as we look back. I’ve been through it three times now and, after seeing the latest WaterWipes campaign ‘When a baby is born, a parent is born’ I have come to  the realisation that those hazy first few weeks and months are some of the most precious. There is much change that happens right before your eyes, regardless of how many babies you have, witnessing them sit up, take their first steps or sleep through the night (although that doesn’t necessarily happen during those first few months!) is a truly rewarding experience.

WaterWipes sea goddess campaign Lucy babyFor me, when it comes down to it there are two great lessons I’ve taken away from my experience thus far in motherhood. The first is the unflattering belief that I am doing the best I can for my children. The decisions we make with regards to how we look after our children are all too often judged and questioned. How we feed our babies, how we settle them, let them sleep, carry them, the list goes on. One of the real keys to enjoying motherhood is being proud of the decisions you make and supporting the decisions other mothers make. When you feed your baby don’t look up, don’t search the crowd for a disapproving face whether you bottle or breastfeed, instead look down and take in every inch of the perfection and innocence you cradle and feel fulfilled that as a mother you have created something so special. f5652c4b-589f-4972-97ca-548278871ac7Secondly, our bodies are amazing things, how they create such a perfect little being in a relatively short amount of time is something we usually don’t give ourselves enough credit for. Instead, we often frown as we pinch the bits that shouldn’t be there, and we sigh as we read about yet another celebrity sporting an impossibly tiny waist mere hours after giving birth. So be kind to yourself, think positive thoughts when you look in the mirror, fuel your body the right way and take the opportunity to get out for a walk in the fresh air when your partner gets home even if you haven’t showered for three days and there is a pile of washing to be done, those too can wait, if you walk fast enough no one will smell you anyway!e671933a-0e94-4c84-bc00-edc60cb449e9So to those of you who are stuck in that bleary eyed phase which is undoubtedly hard going at the best of time, where the nights are long and the days a blur of feeding, washing, changing and cleaning, remember this; there will come a time, sooner than you expect, when you long for the weight of that innocent and loving head against your chest and those little fingers wrapped tenderly around your fingers. The years are short and before you know it there are no crumbs on the floor, no sticky fingers on your clean jeans and the nights are quiet, and though those early stages can test our patience beyond all belief, there will never be a time again where the love between mother and child exists with so little influence of the outside world, pure and simple.669bfe63-6f95-4ee3-9884-c8a78c1a9202

This is an ad, I was paid by WaterWipes to write this blog post! 

Here are some further details on WaterWipes for those of you that may be interested.

 • The world’s purest baby wipe, carefully designed to be gentle on babies’ sensitive skin.
• WaterWipes are made with 99.9% water and a drop of fruit seed extract – a gentle skin conditioner.
• A baby’s skin is much more delicate than your own. It should be cleaned with only the gentlest and purest elements possible.
• WaterWipes are suitable from birth, safe for sensitive skin and the only baby wipe to be approved by Allergy UK and awarded the National Eczema Association Seal of Acceptance.
• When a baby is born, the outermost layer of their skin is incomplete, making their skin much thinner than adults.

WaterWipes launched its brand new TV commercial ‘When a Baby is Born, a Parent is Born.’ on the 1st March – watch it on the @WaterWipes Facebook page or on the following URL: https://www.waterwipes.com/uk/parent-is-born

Social media for small businesses and working with bloggers

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I get asked quite a lot by small companies and start ups is advice on their current social media strategy and for advice on working with bloggers. It is wonderful see so many people setting up businesses now, but the very nature of that venture is that you need to wear a lot of hats and be proficent in so many areas of expertise from the finacnes to the marketing. And social media is a wonderful thing for small businesses, it means that they can access a huge audience of people for a relatively small spend but there is more to social media than meets the eye. I want to go through some of the most common questions I get and the most common suggestions I give so that it may help another small business owner to perhaps step back from it all if they are lost in the fog. Continue reading

Cows Milk Protein Allergy – our experience

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I’ll kick off this blog post by saying that this is going to be purely about our experience with Lucy and her allergy to cows milk protein. I’m not a dietitian, we haven’t even been to one yet with her so I’m mainly going to talk about how we came about figuring out Lucy’s problem and what we are doing based purely on advice I have picked up Continue reading

5 free printable worksheet ideas to keep the kids entertained and educated

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I won’t lie, our playroom is filled to the brim with colouring books….but since the girls discovered that my laptop has the wonderful ability to pull up any picture they can dream of to be coloured in they have me hounded. Terrible for the poor auld trees but great for my sanity. People often ask me how I find the time to get all the DIY things done around the house and I’m about to let you all in on a secret. Firstly, its not television that occupies the ladies while I’m busy creating my next Pinterest fail success, Continue reading

An easy and unusual DIY idea for getting lots of memories up on the wall

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I find with the house inspiration comes in fits and bursts, I am either brimming with ideas or have none whatsoever. The girls started off in separate rooms but it’s a joy to see them so close that they decided themselves they wanted to share a room. We had bought triple bunks for both of their rooms and so I decorated accordingly but over Christmas they decided they just wanted two single beds in their rooms so that they could look at each other when they chatted, so adorable. Therefore I was left with rather ridiculous looking gaps on the walls where the bunk bed had been as I had hung pictures above the bunks in the assumption they’d be in place for years to come. Continue reading

10 tips for protecting our kids online and ensuring internet safety in the home

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I went to a talk recently given in my daughters primary school which was all about internet safety and primary school kids. There is no doubt that technology will play a huge part in our kids lives going forward but there is a huge difference between educating kids in how to use a computer versus giving them free reign with a phone or tablet and fooling ourselves into thinking they are learning. Continue reading

Put down your phone and read a book!

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We have a rule that I ‘generally’ adhere to in our house – no phones beside our beds. And you know I have to say I think it’s a great idea (it wasn’t mind it was my husbands, he’s literally allergic to social media – well they do say opposites attract!). Lucy used to wake a LOT at night, actually it’s probably remiss of me to write that in the past tense because she’s only just figured out how to sleep through so I doubt we’re out of the sleepless woods yet. Anyway, I digress, I used to find myself picking up my phone once I’d settled her, you know to check all the incredibly important social media happenings that just simply couldn’t’ wait until morning….!! But for sure the bright light of the phone really messed with my ability to go back to sleep and it used to set my mind racing with ideas or thoughts. Continue reading

Be good to yourself this January and revaluate rather than resist the food you enjoy

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I don’t know about your house but here we don’t go in for new beginnings with the dawn of the new year. I find myself so fatigued by the end of January by all these offers of new diets and new fitness routines, urgh, just not for me, I am more about moderation and healthy, sensible eating all year round. That said I do find January a nice time to reassess what we already do, life is busy and sometimes we find ourselves stuck in a rut when it comes to food and routines so it’s a good time to take stock and look at how we can be sure to be good to ourselves for the year ahead! Continue reading

Books for toddlers 3 to 4 year old

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The last post I did on our favourite books was such a success I decided to follow up with a post on what the big lady is currently enjoying. We’ve joined the local library which is quite possibly one of the best value things you can do with children. Our local library is pretty new and the kids section is nicely removed from where the students who are studying tend to sit. Online if you want to buy books Amazon is great of course as is the Book Depository and the Book People.  Continue reading

Meet the Makers – Chiara Hayes Jewellery

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So it’s safe to say the small Irish directory of businesses has been a huge success. The businesses are still rolling in and it’s becoming a wonderful resource for people especially now in the lead up to Christmas. To compliment the directory I’m going to do a Meet the Maker series – a short questionnaire that gives some insight to the people behind the brands and businesses listed. That’s half the point of buying from a small business, you are not only investing in a beautiful, quality product you are investing in real people who use that money to pay their bills, or pay for dance classes for their kids, it’s a win win for everyone involved.  Continue reading