Wise words for the new mother I was from the mother I am now

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When WaterWipes approached me to get involved with their latest campaign I was, firstly, more than delighted because I use the wipes anyway on the small ladies behind and, secondly, because the campaign really struck a chord wth me. They want to take a different approach, so much of what we see online features picture perfect mothers with glossy hair and a serene expression on their faces holding an equally serene newborn in their arms as they gaze into each other’s eyes…no dirty muslin cloths hanging around in the background, no reminints of sick on the mothers top and a tidy room. It’s this sort of imagery and messaging that is so incredibly misleading; motherhood is messy, it’s a constant juggle to keep all the balls in the air without loosing your mind but it’s also amazing and wonderful and, well just amazing. With the idea of breaking down the perfect image portrayed so often to us, WaterWipes aims to inspire us, motherhood isn’t easy but it sure is wonderful. I’ve put together a few thoughts on the topic, advice I think my own self, as a first time mother, could really have used those 6 years ago now…..2695f72b-0ce9-4029-9f00-6a137e78872eIt’s a funny thing reflecting back on a time when your baby was small, I personally think that Mother Nature has a great knack of making you forget the exhausting parts and only lets you remember the precious cuddles and the parenting wins. Those early memories are so quickly replaced by new stages, new milestones, new worries that perhaps the mind only has the capacity to remember the sweeter spots as we look back. I’ve been through it three times now and, after seeing the latest WaterWipes campaign ‘When a baby is born, a parent is born’ I have come to  the realisation that those hazy first few weeks and months are some of the most precious. There is much change that happens right before your eyes, regardless of how many babies you have, witnessing them sit up, take their first steps or sleep through the night (although that doesn’t necessarily happen during those first few months!) is a truly rewarding experience.

WaterWipes sea goddess campaign Lucy babyFor me, when it comes down to it there are two great lessons I’ve taken away from my experience thus far in motherhood. The first is the unflattering belief that I am doing the best I can for my children. The decisions we make with regards to how we look after our children are all too often judged and questioned. How we feed our babies, how we settle them, let them sleep, carry them, the list goes on. One of the real keys to enjoying motherhood is being proud of the decisions you make and supporting the decisions other mothers make. When you feed your baby don’t look up, don’t search the crowd for a disapproving face whether you bottle or breastfeed, instead look down and take in every inch of the perfection and innocence you cradle and feel fulfilled that as a mother you have created something so special. f5652c4b-589f-4972-97ca-548278871ac7Secondly, our bodies are amazing things, how they create such a perfect little being in a relatively short amount of time is something we usually don’t give ourselves enough credit for. Instead, we often frown as we pinch the bits that shouldn’t be there, and we sigh as we read about yet another celebrity sporting an impossibly tiny waist mere hours after giving birth. So be kind to yourself, think positive thoughts when you look in the mirror, fuel your body the right way and take the opportunity to get out for a walk in the fresh air when your partner gets home even if you haven’t showered for three days and there is a pile of washing to be done, those too can wait, if you walk fast enough no one will smell you anyway!e671933a-0e94-4c84-bc00-edc60cb449e9So to those of you who are stuck in that bleary eyed phase which is undoubtedly hard going at the best of time, where the nights are long and the days a blur of feeding, washing, changing and cleaning, remember this; there will come a time, sooner than you expect, when you long for the weight of that innocent and loving head against your chest and those little fingers wrapped tenderly around your fingers. The years are short and before you know it there are no crumbs on the floor, no sticky fingers on your clean jeans and the nights are quiet, and though those early stages can test our patience beyond all belief, there will never be a time again where the love between mother and child exists with so little influence of the outside world, pure and simple.669bfe63-6f95-4ee3-9884-c8a78c1a9202

This is an ad, I was paid by WaterWipes to write this blog post! 

Here are some further details on WaterWipes for those of you that may be interested.

 • The world’s purest baby wipe, carefully designed to be gentle on babies’ sensitive skin.
• WaterWipes are made with 99.9% water and a drop of fruit seed extract – a gentle skin conditioner.
• A baby’s skin is much more delicate than your own. It should be cleaned with only the gentlest and purest elements possible.
• WaterWipes are suitable from birth, safe for sensitive skin and the only baby wipe to be approved by Allergy UK and awarded the National Eczema Association Seal of Acceptance.
• When a baby is born, the outermost layer of their skin is incomplete, making their skin much thinner than adults.

WaterWipes launched its brand new TV commercial ‘When a Baby is Born, a Parent is Born.’ on the 1st March – watch it on the @WaterWipes Facebook page or on the following URL: https://www.waterwipes.com/uk/parent-is-born

Cows Milk Protein Allergy – our experience

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I’ll kick off this blog post by saying that this is going to be purely about our experience with Lucy and her allergy to cows milk protein. I’m not a dietitian, we haven’t even been to one yet with her so I’m mainly going to talk about how we came about figuring out Lucy’s problem and what we are doing based purely on advice I have picked up Continue reading

The wonderful world of weaning

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Three kids in it’s fair to say I have a good bit of experience with the world of weaning. I remember back on my first lady the whole idea of weaning being so daunting, it felt like the first time as a mother I was left to my own devices, the advice of the midwives or public health nurse was long gone and I felt there was so much out there saying ‘oh if you give too much sweet food they’ll be fat’ and I was petrified of giving the wrong food. Continue reading

5 easy DIY kids bedroom decor ideas

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If you follow me on Instagram you will have seen some of the DIY’s I’ve done around the house now for the girls rooms. I have been in my element channelling my creative ideas that have bubbling away for years now but only just coming to fruition now that we have our own home. These are obviously primarily pink but it would be so easy to change up the colours to make these ideas just perfect for a little boys room. These are all DIY’s that I have done at home, mostly with the girls around so they are easy, quick, clean and best of all Continue reading

Nappies nappies everywhere!

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I would almost consider myself a nappy aficionado at this stage, three kids in and so far I’ve been changing nappies for four and a half years solid, and that is obviously set to continue for another couple of years now that Lucy has landed! I’ve tried every size, shape and brand of nappy over the years and one thing is always for sure, when gravity takes hold these nappies are bulky in the middle. So when Pampers approached me and appealed the scientist within me I  took on the challenge of testing this nappy to see just how much water it could hold (thankfully they didn’t ask me to test it with the real deal!).  Continue reading

5 breastfeeding tips from a mother that finally succeeded

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I had originally written this post in advance of the latest arrival but then I felt i had to hold off publishing it until I tried and tested my own advice! We’re five weeks into the journey this time round, and touch wood, all is going well, I’m out the far side of soreness, we’re settling into a lovely rhythm together, and most importantly the small lady is piling on the pounds, literally!! I think if you can survive the first couple of weeks you’re on the road to success. I’ve written before about my hit and misses with breastfeeding in the past, not through lack of wanting to do it did things not work out but for various reasons which have led me through a good journey of discovery! BUUUT, this is my time to shine. I really, really want to make a proper go of it this time round so I put together this list of breastfeeding tips I’ve learned to date, for other Mums that may want to try it out or that tried and failed but want to try again. Continue reading

5 surprising hospital bag essentials after a baby

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Ok so I know that these posts are done to death and I’m not going to go into a full long list of what I put in my hospital bag because there are literally a million checklists online for that. What I want to put together is a list of the surprising products that I found really useful in hospital third time round. Any Mum to be will know that she needs babygros, big knickers and those nappy like pads (the glamour!) but there are a few little extra things you can throw into your bag that make life in the hospital that little bit easier.  Continue reading

Handmade Irish baby gifts

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When Siobhan the lady behind Monaghan based Bonnie & Bumble, and whose Instagram feed I literally drool over, got in touch and sent me this beautiful baby vest for the new arrival I was inspired to go back to some of the basics of this blog. I simply love to support Irish businesses, especially ones that develop from kitchen tables across the country, that are started by talented Mothers working hard to combine the jobs of parenting with creativity to produce unique and beautiful items. Continue reading

#GeorgeMiniMe party dresses for everyone

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There are some things in life that you only get away with for a limited time, like eating sweets before it catches up on you and dressing your daughters in matching outfits. The time comes all too quickly where they are full of their own opinions and tastes which is a thing to be celebrated but also signals the passing of time from milestone to milestone. My two ladies are two years apart in age but my small lady is a four year old trapped in a two year old’s body. Continue reading

Housework hacks

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Never one to shy away from a seemingly boring topic, for me there is however, no escaping this subject on a daily basis. The one thing I’ve noticed since being at home with the ladies is the sheer increase in the amount of housework that has to be done. I’m the first to admit I’m a bit anal about the house being kept relatively neat and tidy. The girls are great at helping to be fair, I hold pretty tight on the rule that if they are finished playing with one toy/puzzle etc they must tidy it up before tearing out the next pile of stuff. The bump is beginning to impede on daily tasks so I’ve been trying to come up with some handy tricks to make life easier for myself.  Continue reading